So I’ve been hesitating to share my review on this book that I first read in the summer of 2016.
Now it’s left it’s mark on me, word to Drake.
Although I’ve now finished it, it’s actually mandatory that I look back at it every now and then whenever I need direction or comfort and I want others to feel this too. I can’t keep it to myself any longer!
‘Yep, I’m getting this’ – first thing I told myself when I came across it on somebody’s post, laying in bed, scrolling down the timeline. The wording, the logic, the way it played in my head like a talking drum, everything about it made sense despite it being an extract. It became one of the highlights of my summer.
I believe God purposely brought my attention to that post as it became so relevant at that moment in time.
I’ll be discussing a few key points that have stuck with me the most as the book is very full on. In other words, get involved!
The purpose of ‘Daughter you can make it.’ is to cover every single aspect a woman deals with in her life; from the temptations to be emotional, unforgiving and materialistic to the fears of not being good enough, a spouse becoming interested in someone else, poverty and financial difficulties.
The strong references to all the stories of women in the bible which then gets applied to real life, revealing a shocking revelation that history sure does have a way of repeating itself and concluding that there is nothing new under the sun. It shows how vital it is to actually live how these women lived and shares excellent examples and steps on how to execute this.
The author is a husband, a pastor, a leader and a counselor and makes a short dedication to his wife thanking her for her tremendous support throughout his ministry and life in general.
The concept of the book lies on the story of Adam and Eve, unfolding the sad truth of how much women have been looked down upon and treated unfairly because of this, through endless plights and group movements just to earn respect as this is seen as a curse. The book therefore teaches us how we can break this curse just by the way we carry ourselves as women.
It is written that “the painful experiences of life can make a woman bitter, hardened, unforgiving and unmerciful” Whether it is from heartbreak, failed friendships and relationships, feeling unappreciated, or not feeling good enough, they are the battles that diminish all of our trust and faith. So many of us encounter such resentment and it’s so evident that it changes the way we treat others, ourselves and even how we perceive the world.
“It is in your interest to walk in love and to forgive those who have hurt you, this will make you a daughter that pleases the Lord”
We are taught to be the type of women who Jesus sees as a daughter. We are taught to forgive, to not be too emotional and to not do things out of fear.
“Do not allow emotions of sorrow, fear, jealousy, hatred and insecurity to overwhelm you. Remember, you will do well when you are not dominated by your emotions”
“There are two types of women in the world. Women who make wise decisions and women who make emotional decisions.”
“Fear is the opposite of faith. Fear influences many women to do the things they do. Humbly analyse your thoughts. See if you are doing what you are doing because of fear. Remember that fear is a demon”
Made me think for a minute if most of the risks, steps out of my comfort zone or dramatic decisions I’ve ever made was because I genuinely felt it was best for me and my future or because I was scared out of my mind.
How many of us are guilty of the second? 🙋🏾
Which kind of woman are you?
Which kind of woman do you want to be?
When fear does not rule us, we are free to be bold and confident. This doesn’t necessarily mean we will never feel fear, it just means that we will no longer allow it to dictate our decisions and actions. You can say that you’re a confident woman because you decided to be one, not because you always feel confident.
We need to experience a revival of knowing our infinite worth and value.
Remember; Fear is the opposite of faith.
We must believe we are beautiful but we shouldn’t degrade who we really are and what we have to offer in the process, because our beauty is never enough.
As beautiful women, we tend to confide in our beauty to last forever and some of us are even deceived into thinking that it will charm a man forever. If we really want to become women with direction, then we must refrain from ignoring the fact that beauty is vain and using it to our advantage has an expiration date.
What about your soul?
In a room full of people, do you contribute to the positive vibe? Or do people leave knowing that they don’t ever want to be around you again? How do you treat the cleaner at your job? Do you love unconditionally? Have you accepted yourself for who you are, flaws and all?
As well as the above, to me, beauty lies in the moments I feel free and alive, its the moments I feel proud and satisfied, it’s the moments I tell myself I’m going to do something and actually do it, it’s the moments I reach out to others with inspiration and support, and vice versa.
To me, beauty is happiness.
Being materialistic was another temptation the author highlighted.
A myriad of beautiful possessions circulate our thoughts every now and then, and we know exactly what we want, especially as we get older, invest, reach our goals, and have a taste of the financial stability life.
Whilst we’re aiming for such, we must never forget the Importance of not loving too much of what the world has to offer and to not place our confidence in them either. Our happiness should never come from the things we possess and we must never envy what the woman next door possesses either.
Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
– Matthew 6: 19 – 21
Temporary vs. Eternal
The earthly minded vs. The heavenly minded
Remember; A thief can break into your home, steal your TV, steal your laptop, steal your jewelry, but they can never steal your blessings, your wisdom and your knowledge!
A woman must ask herself; What is my purpose in life?
The writer establishes how much great works God has in store for us and once we discover what our purpose is, we will be content.
The most common misconception of any women’s purpose in life is marriage.
She can have a PHD in medicine, find the cure to cancer, dance on the moon but if she is unmarried, she is useless.
“A woman with direction is a women who has discovered her real reason for being in this world. The real reason for every woman to be in this world is not to find a husband, neither is it to bring forth children, per se”
Her main purpose is to do what God has called her to do, whether she is married or not. Whether she has children or not. If we look to others for fulfillment we will not be happy people.
When a woman discovers her real purpose, she can hold her head up high about herself and her future. She can be bold to step out and do new things because she simply has what it takes.
Study yourself, find something you’re great at, do something you love, accomplish things, give back,touch the hearts of others, plan, invest and excel.
Get your life, girl.
1. Keep praying
In spite of problems and especially when you’re waiting for a miracle. All help comes from Him.
2. Notice His blessings around you.
Learn to see beyond your
problems. Looking at faults will blind you from blessings. So always be thankful as more is on the way.
3. Use your spiritual weapons.
Do not look to physical or human methods to get what you need, but be prayerful instead. There is power in prayer, as this is where we can achieve breakthroughs and blessings.
Give onto Him and He will give back to you. Become a giver, He knows what you need. The more you give, the more you will receive.
6. Keep on praising
A woman with direction stays with Him even after a blessing has come.
7. Go beyond your emotions.
Become a spiritual person instead. Through your problems, you will get to know God better.
Which heading triggered you the most?
Which reminder/reminders do you feel you need to work on the most?
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